As I was studying on the web on the serious and complicated issue of divorce in Canada I was pretty dumb-founded by a search engine result termed as jokes on divorce and separation. I was curious and examined through and was certainly so refreshed by the humor involved that I needed to get my contemplating cap on.
My brain began to think of diverse celebrities particularly guys that have employed wit to describe a quite challenging marriage and divorce process, but with forbearance by no means indulging in belittling the spouse involved in it. It made me see that this rare humor not just lightens the air but additionally presents the spouse concerned a noble exit.
There’s this query by a scribe to a just divorced superstar who was on the verge a new marriage regarding why he was marrying all over again. Didn’t his current divorce and separation show him any lessons? The quick repartee was that he possessed a poor memory. There’s this other poser to a superstar by a tabloid journalist on why was divorce in Canada or across the earth so costly. The consummate answer, by the celebrity was – “It was worthwhile!”
Another witty one goes along the lines of how a divorced American beauty, once enquired a terrific thinker and writer to marry her. To which the great man not regarded much for his looks is presumed to have replied, that he feared for the kids of such a relationship. Suppose the kids were born with her brains and his beauty it would certainly cause them divorcing the mom and dad!
There is this joke about a couple married for many years. The couple on their ninetieth wedding anniversary approached a court for divorce and separation. So the judge asked them why they desired a separation now. In unison they reply, we did not want to disturb the kids and now that they are all dead, it’s time to go our different ways.
Divorce in Canada as well as globally, is often a phase when there’s good deal of distress in the very relationships that you presumed would final forever. When one is living through the breakup, all emotions are concentrated on getting that legal freedom. But when the breakup is ultimately granted there is far more relief than fulfillment. It’s then that humor will guide you live through the challenging moments as you come to terms with the separation of a loved one. Retain the most effective memories and start out afresh on a joyful note.
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There’s an article in yesterday’s edition of the University of Idaho’s The Argonaut entitled Rethinking divorce written by Benjamin Ledford with some interesting facts and observations. According to Ledford, the divorce rate in Japan, among first marriages, is just 27% and in India it is %. He observes that these countries also have a high number of arranged marriages. However, he says that the low divorce rate is not the result of this custom or legal impediments to divorce so much as it is due to the parties intentions that their marriage is supposed to be permanent.
I’m not convinced.
These countries have huge cultural and legal obstacles to divorce, especially those initiated by the wife. As much as I agree that we would be all better off if more people took care to pick a mate they were committed to for good, and then made keeping their marriage together their top priority, I do not think we would see a % divorce rate and still maintain the liberal (note the small “l”) western legal culture we have.
Their is a price to be paid for freedom and it is a high price – but worth it. We have to be willing to let other people make what we believe are poor decisions and suffer the consequences. Divorce is not always a poor decision but our rate of around 5% strongly suggests that some awfully poor decision making is going on out there.
While arranged marriage and significant legal impediments to divorce are not the answer, the higher incidence of divorce today compared with just a few decades ago might be in part explained by the decline in a less formal kind of matchmaking. As people wait to marry later in life, they are influenced less by the opinions of older, wiser parents and more by peers who are no better informed than they are. I think that this may account for some of the apparently diminished quality of decision making our divorce rate reflects.
So what’s the solution? I think a person contemplating marriage or looking for advice on how to preserve an existing marriage would be wise to place a little extra value on the counsel of their parents and other older and more experienced family and friends. Arranged marriages? No. But a little informal match-making might be just the thing.
Here’s an interesting article in the Charlatan. According to a recent study by Statistics Canada, married people live longer than unmarried, common-law or divorced people. Now the relationship between stable relationships and longer-life has been known for several decades. But where this study gets particularly interesting is in the suggestion that it is not just stable relationships but matrimonial ones which carry the day. Increased social acceptance of common-law status and divorce has apparently not eliminated the advantage marriage enjoys over other forms of relationships.
It gets better. In a University of California study of over ,000 middle aged men, 23% of those who were unmarried but who lived with other family members or with a common-law partner died within 0 years. However, only 0% of those who lived with their wife died. That is far too large to be a statistical fluke.
Despite its healthy advantages, marriage is still in decline. The number of marriages recorded in 2000 was only 83% of what it was just years earlier. In fact, 2006 became the first year that the number of unmarried Canadian adults exceeded the number who were married.
We recently had a question about whether a judge could order a couple who had not lived together for over a year to do so before granting a divorce. Under no circumstances can a judge order them to live together for any amount of time. The closest thing to what you say is that a judge can refuse to grant the divorce if he believes there is a a possibility of reconciliation. The Divorce Act says:
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(2) Where at any stage in a divorce proceeding it appears to the court from the nature of the case, the evidence or the attitude of either or both spouses that there is a possibility of the reconciliation of the spouses, the court shall
(a) adjourn the proceeding to afford the spouses an opportunity to achieve a reconciliation; and
(b) with the consent of the spouses or in the discretion of the court, nominate
(i) a person with experience or training in marriage counselling or guidance, or
(ii) in special circumstances, some other suitable person,
to assist the spouses to achieve a reconciliation.
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In actual practice the only evidence on this issue that the judge will have in an uncontested divorce will come from the affidavit(s) of the applicant(s) which will just state that there is no possibility of reconciliation and the judge will accept that.
Under section 9 of the Divorce Act a lawyer has the duty to discuss the issue of reconciliation with his/her client and inform him/her about “marriage counselling or guidance facilities” and “mediation facilities” for assisting in negotiating terms of divorce.
